It is important to realize that the DCF worker is not your friend.  You do not have to get along with the person; you don’t have to like him or her; in fact, it is rare that that occurs. DCF can attempt to hold it against you if you do not cooperate with your worker.

There are options that you have, but DCF is likely to be able to testify or report back; so you want to make every effort, while protecting your legal rights to work with the DCF worker in most circumstances.

If there are larger issues, you can speak to the DCF worker supervisor or higher ups in the local office.  Further if there are allegations about domestic violence there are specialists that handle that, those are steps that you want to take before more formal steps are taken in most circumstances.